Relationship Health is about your relationship with others.
Others = parents, grandparents, siblings, spouses, boyfriends or girlfriends, children, friends, coworkers, bosses, coaches, trainers, neighbors and strangers, etc.
Some of the best advice I’ve received is to focus on one individual at a time.
How does your relationship make you feel? Are you happy, sad, disappointed or disgusted most of the time?
Do they compete with you? Always try to one-up you?
Or do they fully support you and help you achieve?
When you are with them, do you remain you, or are you taken out of your normal and ordinary? Are you taken away from yourself?
If you don’t know how to answer this right now, think back to a time when you felt your best or your happiest (or even just better). Who were you then? What can you remember?
Does your relationship have a pattern of care, thoughtfulness and respect? Or is it a pattern of disrespect and disregard?
Are the things you say respected and honored? Or dismissed and forgotten?
Does the person honor your boundaries, or are they boundary busters?
Are you being lied to regularly?
Do they manipulate you or situations to always go in their favor? Does it seem like you always have to do what they want?
Is there follow-through? Do they follow-through on what they say?
Is there care and concern?
When you think for yourself, does what they say make sense? Or is it ‘off’ or backwards in some way?
Are you able to engage in and are supported in your endeavors and interests?
For example, if you live with someone, can you put up your own style of favored art? Or do you have to acquiesce to someone else’s style? Where are you represented? Or is it a collection of everyone else’s things?
Are they a friend to you, or do they gaslight, bully and insult you?
Do they honor your time? Or do they take more time than necessary?
Is their love or support conditional? Meaning they only help or give in to what you want, after they’ve gotten what they wanted?
Do their actions or tone change when you stand up for yourself?
Do you feel safe enough to stand up for yourself or to be honest? Or do you find yourself sugarcoating your reply to get less push-back?
How do they react when you’re honest with them? Do they listen to you or go into a rage?